Advice to anyone raising a daughter..
I was shocked not long ago to learn that more and more women are leaving their children to pursue what makes them "happy." More fathers are raising daughters than ever before. Since I spent quite a bit of time at the Hendrickson High School clinic, I was also saddened to see how many girls come in pregnant.
If you are a man raising a daughter. Don't speak to or about women like we are a piece of meat. Treat women the way you'd want a man to treat your daughter. Otherwise, she will think it is okay to be used like a piece of meat.
Don't dress her in provocative wear. Teach her that her tatas go inside her clothes not spilling outside. But if you break your neck to notice every busty half dressed woman, she will want to dress that way, too. This includes those ridiculous underwear commercials. Change the channel. If you are a mama, she will follow your example regardless of what you say. So, you dress how you want her to dress at age 11,12,13.... Remember that your granddaughters will one day learn from the foundation you have started.
Take her to church. Even if you believe in nothing. Don't rob her of the opportunity to hear the voice of the King of the universe. His voice will lead, protect, and guide her in ways you never can.
Teach her to honor and respect others. Teach her to serve and not expect to be paid for every good deed. Otherwise, she will not know how to expect it herself and will grow up an entitled prima dona .
Make her do hard work. Don't let her grow up helpless and dependent. Yet, help her notice the men worth noticing. Not those that seduce her with pretty words, but men willing to work hard, too. Men of faith that won't leave her stranded when life gets hard. Men that will change her tire and pay for dinner even though she can do both herself.
Help her to recognize that her beauty lies in her dignity and kindness, not in the pages of a magazine. Don't buy those magazines. Help her to focus on others and spend less time in the mirror.
Teach her to not to settle for friendships that drag her down. It is better to be lonely for a while then be influenced by bad company.
Help her to handle her emotions early in life; otherwise, she will always struggle with keeping them in reign. Teach her that pain is unavoidable but not worth wallowing in. This is where a strong faith in God will save her.
Let her talk. Otherwise, she will wonder why she isn't important. Help her learn to converse well with others by asking her thought provoking questions.
Buy her books. Lots and lots of books and encourage her to read. Encourage her to write. It's far better to spend time learning than in idleness.
Teach her to cook. Don't ever tell her there are men jobs and women jobs. Chivalry should never be dead, but the days of women working ourselves to death while husbands rest on the lazy-boy are over. It's going to take two people giving it their all or better to remain single.
Help her to make vows carefully. If all she sees are broken promises, she will learn to break promises.
Teach her to fail. Learning to ask for forgiveness is a good thing. Teach her to walk with her head high and if anyone ever makes her feel like she has to stare at the floor; teach her to run from that one!
Help her to recognize her God given talents and find her God given purpose. Help her to pursue that with a passion and all the other things she dreams about will fall into place.
Teach her to pray.
I am praying for parents that will raise up godly daughters because one day my son will need an honorable wife.
I was shocked not long ago to learn that more and more women are leaving their children to pursue what makes them "happy." More fathers are raising daughters than ever before. Since I spent quite a bit of time at the Hendrickson High School clinic, I was also saddened to see how many girls come in pregnant.
If you are a man raising a daughter. Don't speak to or about women like we are a piece of meat. Treat women the way you'd want a man to treat your daughter. Otherwise, she will think it is okay to be used like a piece of meat.
Don't dress her in provocative wear. Teach her that her tatas go inside her clothes not spilling outside. But if you break your neck to notice every busty half dressed woman, she will want to dress that way, too. This includes those ridiculous underwear commercials. Change the channel. If you are a mama, she will follow your example regardless of what you say. So, you dress how you want her to dress at age 11,12,13.... Remember that your granddaughters will one day learn from the foundation you have started.
Take her to church. Even if you believe in nothing. Don't rob her of the opportunity to hear the voice of the King of the universe. His voice will lead, protect, and guide her in ways you never can.
Teach her to honor and respect others. Teach her to serve and not expect to be paid for every good deed. Otherwise, she will not know how to expect it herself and will grow up an entitled prima dona .
Make her do hard work. Don't let her grow up helpless and dependent. Yet, help her notice the men worth noticing. Not those that seduce her with pretty words, but men willing to work hard, too. Men of faith that won't leave her stranded when life gets hard. Men that will change her tire and pay for dinner even though she can do both herself.
Help her to recognize that her beauty lies in her dignity and kindness, not in the pages of a magazine. Don't buy those magazines. Help her to focus on others and spend less time in the mirror.
Teach her to not to settle for friendships that drag her down. It is better to be lonely for a while then be influenced by bad company.
Help her to handle her emotions early in life; otherwise, she will always struggle with keeping them in reign. Teach her that pain is unavoidable but not worth wallowing in. This is where a strong faith in God will save her.
Let her talk. Otherwise, she will wonder why she isn't important. Help her learn to converse well with others by asking her thought provoking questions.
Buy her books. Lots and lots of books and encourage her to read. Encourage her to write. It's far better to spend time learning than in idleness.
Teach her to cook. Don't ever tell her there are men jobs and women jobs. Chivalry should never be dead, but the days of women working ourselves to death while husbands rest on the lazy-boy are over. It's going to take two people giving it their all or better to remain single.
Help her to make vows carefully. If all she sees are broken promises, she will learn to break promises.
Teach her to fail. Learning to ask for forgiveness is a good thing. Teach her to walk with her head high and if anyone ever makes her feel like she has to stare at the floor; teach her to run from that one!
Help her to recognize her God given talents and find her God given purpose. Help her to pursue that with a passion and all the other things she dreams about will fall into place.
Teach her to pray.
I am praying for parents that will raise up godly daughters because one day my son will need an honorable wife.
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